Hey friends 👋 Have you ever worked hard, done everything right, even helped others—yet still felt... invisible or even low-key disliked? You're not alone. I used to feel this a lot at school and even in the office.

It confused me for a long time: Why are people who are average often more liked than those who go the extra mile? Let's talk about it.

Being "too good" can backfire 🤯

This sounds strange, but sometimes when you're too efficient, too capable, or always on it, it makes others feel nervous or even distant from you.

I once had a colleague tell me, "You're great, but you make the rest of us feel like we're slacking." 😅 That was never my intention.

That's when I first heard about something called presence management — and honestly, it changed the way I worked with people.

What is presence management? 🧩

Presence management isn't about shrinking yourself or pretending to be less. It's about being aware of how your energy, skills, and actions affect the people around you.

It's things like:

• Knowing when to speak up and when to hold back

• Making sure your confidence doesn't come across as showing off

• Being helpful without taking over

• Celebrating others, not just your own wins

Basically, it's emotional awareness in action 💡

I had to learn this the hard way 🫣

There was a time I always raised my hand first, finished early, and corrected others when they made mistakes. I wasn't trying to show off — I was just being... me.

But it created a wall. People stopped asking me for help. Some even avoided me.

When I started softening my approach — asking others for advice, giving them space to shine, even laughing at my own mistakes — everything changed.

People opened up. We became a team, not a solo mission.

Being excellent ≠ being alone 💬

Lykkers, here's the truth: It's not about diming your light — it's about warming others with it. Excellence is powerful, but connection is what makes people remember you and like you.

So don't just manage your performance. Manage your presence. That's the part people really feel 🤝

Have you ever felt "too much"? 🧠

I'd love to hear your thoughts. Have you ever held back to fit in? Or learned to balance being capable with being relatable? Drop your stories in the comments 💬

You deserve to shine — and to be seen. Just make sure others feel seen too ✨